Yan has had a difficult time with attachment and security since I adopted her. It was literally a year after she came home before she could stay with anyone for even a short period of time. She has come a long way. But there are days...days like today when I wonder when/if her little heart will ever feel secure.
I've had to go several places during the last few weeks and have left her at a place she really enjoys (it is a drop-in childcare...but I know the person/people who run it and they do well with her...I don't want someone to read this and have flashbacks to the movie "One Fine Day" and the "Ninth Street Drop-In" :) Anyway, she seems to enjoy being there. She likes having children around who are a wide variety of ages. She enjoys doting on the babies and joining in the games with the older kids. But she is still scared. She will not eat, drink, go potty, or change her pull-up. And when she's "done", she just meltsdowns and cries.
She has done the same thing when I've gotten a new sitter...she will dehydrate before she'll even touch a drop of food or drink. It just makes me sad. I just want her to know that she knows that she knows that I will always come back. We are five years out now...when will she fill secure? Oy...it just is what it is today. Jenn
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Friday, February 12, 2010
Yes, we're still here. It's been a crazy time here. I am trying to get an online store up and running...so stay tuned.
In other news, Yan and I had a blast this Wednesday. We met a friend, Christy, that I met online a few years ago. She's also a mom of two beautiful internationally adopted children. She's a photographer and just a great person. She came into town for a photography convention and we got to meet in person. She was kind enough to take some pictures of Yan and I at a local mall. There was an aquarium restaurant and we had so much fun seeing all the fabulous sea creatures. Yan loved it! Here are some of the shots!